Tiny sad stories about our society

Jun 23 2016 Published by under parenting, role models

Story 1. A few weeks ago we (husband, BlueEyes, Little Brother and me) went to visit a friend of mine. My friend had pinkish red nail polish on her toe nails and both BlueEyes and Little Brother thought that looked really interesting. My friend asked if they wanted that too, which they did. She painted their toe nails and both of them were incredibly proud to have such pretty looking toe nails. The next day, Little Brother went to daycare, where he proudly showed his toe nails and continued to do so for the next couple of days. BlueEyes went to school and when he left he was very excited to show everyone his nail polish. When he came home at the end of the day, the first thing he asked me was to take it off, because "nail polish is for girls only".

Story 2. In the morning, BlueEyes asks to watch some tv and I turn the tv on for him. We search for a channel and at some point we find the power rangers, which he says he wants to watch.

Me: "I liked watching that too when I was little"

BlueEyes:"But you were a girl when you were little, right?"

Me:"Yes, why?"

BlueEyes:"Because power rangers is only for boys"

I am surprised and ask him why, but then when the show ends I realize why: because the channel specifically says so...

 

How do I tell my children that anyone can become whatever they want and like and wear whatever they want, when society tells them that certain things are for girls and other things are for girls? And when society seems to yell much louder than I ever can?

4 responses so far

  • That is extra sad. This reminds me of a friend with 2 boys whose mom brought them goodies, chief among them was sparkly nail polish because the younger boy loves doing his toes. We need more of that to drown out society acting like there's one way to be male and one way to be female. I think that everything you, and I, and others say at home about toys and shows and games and hobbies being for all kids, not just boys or girls, will echo louder than what society says.

    I know they'll see it everywhere but remembering how much my parents' encouragement to be myself, adorned or unadorned as I saw fit, stuck with me, I have to hope that our words and positivity will be more important.

  • Alyssa says:

    This is sad πŸ™ I just keep telling my boys that nothing is JUST for boys/girls - it sinks in! A proud moment lately was my older son asking me why there were no girl drivers in a hot wheels book. So, I just made two of them into "she' πŸ™‚

  • tribble says:

    The blue sparkly nail polish in our house is just for my older son. He's into bedazzling, but not so much into sharing. The teachers at his day care all think it's cute when he comes in wearing it, and so far he hasn't mentioned any push back from his friends. I'm sure it will come at some point. I think we'll go for a "house rules" approach. He understands that different houses have different rules for what behavior is allowed. In our house we don't jump on the bed but we do let boys wear nail polish.

    We'll see if that works.

  • Julian Frost says:

    It's idiotic that the channel did that. I'm not a brony, but I would never presume to mock adult males for liking "My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic".
    What was the channel thinking? (or more correctly, not thinking)

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